Couples therapy requires vulnerability, time, emotional energy, financial investment and it's a process that can feel uncertain; especially at the start.
You've tried everything on your own that you can:
• talking it through
• giving each other space
• reading articles
• trying harder
• “letting things go”
• pretending things are fine
And you're still stuck in the same fights, feeling lonely, afraid or even resigned that "this is all there is" as you go about your daily routines.
A question, I like to start with instead : Are we willing to understand each other differently?
That's what couples therapy is, at least with me.
It's not a cure, and it's not magic. It's two people, in a room, saying "I care enough about you, and about what we've shared, to try and see it all in a new way. " To perhaps explore the individual and relationship history more fully, and to stop trying to be right, and start trying to feel better in the right now.
Couples who thrive are not couples who never struggle. They are couples who learn how to repair. And sometimes, to do that, you need a little help.
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